It’s the month of love. And by now we’re all preparing for that time we spend with our special someone to do something romantic. After all, we might be expected to do it.
It could be …
…dinner for two
…spending time together
…giving gifts like flowers, chocolates, and candy
And as much as we can, we want to give our all for that special someone. Because when it comes to love and romance, giving the grand gesture seems to top it all. We love the showy displays of affection that often seems like a deep picture of love. And when we give it, we experience warm fuzzy feelings that satisfy us.
It’s something that we all seem to want. And yes, we think that our partners want it too. And so we give that grand gesture thinking that it would serve as our offering of love that’s worth the whole year.
But is that really enough?
The way we see it, love happens throughout the whole year – whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not. And as much as possible, we try our best to show it in ways that surpass us.
And yes, we can make a grand gesture this Valentine’s Day. After all, it makes it all the more memorable for that person you love. But if this is the only way we show love, we are deluding ourselves into thinking that it is enough. Love, after all, does not simply end with grand, romantic gestures.
No, we’re not stopping you from going all out on this month of love. By all means, have that romantic dinner by candlelight while popping that bottle of champagne. We just want to share to you another perspective that perhaps can last beyond the grand gesture.
And what’s that?
Become a better person for your beloved.
First of all, we have to realize that becoming better is something that we do for ourselves. Because when we grow as a person, the first one who benefits is yourself.
We become better for…
…others who we meet so that we can serve them and give them value. And in turn, we make the world a better place.
…the people we care and love to show that they are a part of us. That they are the people, we see as family.
…ourselves so that we grow and become the persons of the value we are meant to be.
We become better for ourselves. Because deep down inside of us, we are meant to grow and develop. This is so that in turn, others will see us as an example. And when we become examples, people inevitably follow us. In doing so, we make the world a better place.
Yes, becoming a better person will help us. But it goes beyond that. We have to be better for those we deeply love.
And yes, it becomes the best Valentine’s present for that special someone.
When we become better, we…
We see the needs of the person we love and act on it. We see how the world really is and find ways to make it better. Not only for ourselves but also for the people we care for and for those we meet. We also see the beauty of the world, even in its darkness, and find ways to share it to the ones we love.
In the course of our growth as individuals, we realize that we are here to serve. In fact, service is another way to show love. When we become better, we serve better. And when we serve better, love is shown more.
Yes, we all know the grand gestures of love. After all, it does seem romantic when a singular experience can touch the senses along with the heart. But love is beyond that. Becoming better means that we love despite and in spite of the frailty of those we care the most. In this way, we begin to understand that love is more than romantic. We begin to see that love is unconditional sacrifice.
So we become better. We become better in…
…affirming words that build up people
…providing service that shows value to us and the people we serve
…receiving gifts with wholehearted gratitude
…spending quality time with people we care for
…physical touch that ultimately touches the soul
And we do this with a clear purpose, direction, and action.
So yes, Valentine’s Day is upon us. And yes, the romantic is encouraged. It is, after all, an essential expression of love.
But that is not all, we love even when the sensual season is past. We love at all times and all situations. It is expected of us as a duty and responsibility.
And most of all, we become better so that the service of love will be much richer not simply to ourselves, but to those we love and care for.
So let us make our grand, romantic gestures. And better yet, make a grander gesture of becoming the best person you are meant to be.