It’s like an unspoken running motto in today’s society: appear like you’ve all got it figured out. From fashion and gadgets to social media networks and hangout places (before the pandemic, of course), we are conditioned to present our best selves to other people. We are trained to project an image of confidence, security, and stability – so much so that anything less than that may be considered out of the loop.
But of course, as everyone knows, life doesn’t come in little packages neatly labeled by category. It’s messy; doesn’t go according to plan; and throws in more than a fair share of surprises both good and bad. That’s why we at #LaurusPH think that Daring Greatly is such a refreshing read. Written by Brené Brown who’s an academic and researcher of human emotions, the book brings to light a topic many people are not comfortable with: vulnerability.
Message in a nutshell
The essence of the Daring Greatly boils down to this amazing insight: if you want to be great, you need to have the courage to show your vulnerability in a world that wants you to always appear strong and confident. No doubt it’s not easy, and you may need to reveal things about yourself you’d rather keep private and personal. There’s always a risk that you’ll get hurt – and that’s precisely why it takes courage to do it.
Put it this way. Who can you relate with more? Is it successful people who are very open about their failures and own insecurities, or those who project an image of overachiever without any track of setbacks? If your answer is the first, then we highly suggest checking out the book.
Put it into action
If you allow it, Daring Greatly can have a profound impact on how you view things and express yourself moving forward. For example, you’ll learn that vulnerability actually means strength, not weakness. This can be a liberating concept to accept, because if you do, you can let go of the pressure and stress that comes from always appearing like you know what you’re doing and where you’re headed. Vulnerability means it’s OK to say when you’re not OK; when you’re too tired; when you don’t know.
To give you a snippet of what you can expect from the book, here are a few passages that grabbed our attention:
- Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.
- Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weaknesses.
- The willingness to show up changes us. It makes us a little braver each time.
- Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.
Have you had instances where you took the chance to step out and be vulnerable? We’re more than happy to read your comments! Life will always, always involve risks. But when you own your vulnerability instead of trying to deny it, you can change the way you handle failures. And that, in turn, can change the way you live your life.